I was just a normal student who only wants to survive college while doing some part time job until free Facebook came.
No one can refuse with free things, right? Unless, you are well off already.
It was December 2013, when my phone was only Nokia 3110c and can accessed the internet via mobile data connection. I also want to thank Globe Telecom that time because for the free Facebook access. It was there i exposed myself to online dating.
Am i only searching for foreigner? No.
Do i prefer white people that time? No.
Do i know any dating site or apps that time? No.
I only have free facebook access with my Nokia phone.
The enjoyment of having free access for a poor person such as myself was like heaven. I was able to join groups and talk with anyone. I spoke with a lot of guys from different countries and cultures like Indian, American, British Filipino etc, etc,.
Before online dating, i had no luck with any Filipino guy i fancied. Same as, not liking those guys who liked me back then.
Until one British guy i met from a Facebook group constantly chatting me and i fell for him.
He was my first foreigner i dated online. We never video called because of my phone. He even fooled me by using someone else’s photos but in the end, took the courage to send me his real photo. He’s handsome actually.
He even sent me a Me To You teddy from UK. He even promised to attend my graduation.
To cut the story short, we broke up after 3 months because of some reasons.
1. I have limited resources to communicate with him.
2. He was broken when we first chatted but later i discovered they’re back in each other’s arms.
3. I was too immature to handle a relationship even online since i don’t have any real life experiences with special someone.
I was heartbroken because i thought i love him that much that i let this affect my studies. To think, i was a graduating student. A crucial stage of my life.
I am far away from my family. That time, all i have was friends. I became so busy with my projects that i slowly forgotten him. But there were times, before i close my eyes each night, i remembered him then cried. He already deleted his Facebook account.
I was moving on when i got back to online dating again. I checked my inbox and received many messages from strangers. i later realized that i only entertained white guys. I admit, i was looking for someone who almost look like him that time.
I think, he’s the reason why i prefer white guys. Because i fell in love with how he looked, how he talked to me and taught me how online dating works. In addition to that, I’m an avid fan with American shows or movies and English Ebooks.
I did not know what other people’s purpose there are but all i want is LOVE. Online dating showed me the easiest way to find it. And until now, I’m still in a long distance relationship!
Lessons i learned:
- Never enter a relationship if not ready.
- Don’t give everything so easily.
- Focus on studies first.
- Not all frees are free!